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Unlearning the Past as a Couple

New couples are fantastic! So much hope and possibility for the future. When the hope dims and possibilities appear absent, we wonder if...

Focusing on the Present

Uncomfortable and avoidant feelings are opportunities for looking at ourselves and our perceptions. Sometimes our held memory of events...

Depression, Anxiety, PTSD

Imagine life as an hourglass. Straddling the narrow stem, looking down toward the bottom we think of what we should have done. Turning...

Generational Anger

What could have happened if grandparents had support in looking at the perfectionism and low self esteem hidden under their...

Understanding Family Systems

Organizations yield the results they were designed to yield. Families are no different. Most of us learn how to ‘do’ family by...

Choosing to Do Better

“Our knowledge of parenting techniques, like all intellectual knowledge and learning, is a function of the cognitive left side of the...

Anger Transformation

I am often asked to help a client manage their anger. I decline. Instead, I offer anger transformation. In other words, I attend to...

Sleep, Breath, and Anxiety

Two factors converge this morning for me: Two nights in a row I removed my C-pap in the middle of the night I am reading “What Happened...

Boys & Men

The shift away from domination in creating a better human experience. "I could never reach my father,” the 60 year old lamented. “Well,...

Taking a Pause When Triggered

Find freedom to respond in ways that are intentional, and not reactive. People often call on me because of issues they’re having with...

Parts of Us

Do you know all of your ‘selves’ and how they came to be? Have you experienced yourself as if you were accessing a different part of...

Trauma Doesn’t Have to be the Target

Rather than addressing the trauma of their lives, clients can learn about unhealthy communication patterns. Sometimes, relational...