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Sometimes, people do not know the technical name others give to their struggles. Struggles show up in the language we use with others and with ourselves.
Here are a few examples of exchanges that people who see me use. Maybe some sound rather familiar:
- “She doesn’t get me” — “She just won’t listen.”
- “He doesn’t obey” — “They won’t let me have a life.”
- “They have it in for me” — “He does have multiple charges.”
- “He hates me.” — “You’re imagining things again.”
- “I just feel tired all the time” — “You’re just lazy and spoiled.”
- “He’s been gone for a year and I still can’t sleep.” — “It’s time you move on!”
- “We can’t agree on what’s best for Mom.” — “They treat me like I don’t matter.”
- “I’m afraid.” — “Let’s Go Now!”
- “You need to be nicer to your kids.” — ”You always butt in where you don’t belong”
- “You’re not doing the assignment as instructed!” — “I didn’t hear you!”
- “I hate it when he drinks so much. Why do you stay?” — “He’s a good man.”
Often arguments are between two parties focusing on different problems, each making their point and not acknowledging the other. They argue at the speed of modern media, except in arguing, they don’t have the benefit of editing, practice and retakes. They are people not meeting each other’s needs.
Hi. My name is Ron Welsch, LMFT
I am here now to help.
I earned my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from UW Stout in 2016, while counseling, and teaching youth and children social and emotion regulation skills in schools and day treatment. After graduating, I met kids in schools and their homes, effecting change in family interactions and patterns of communication that resulted in reduced symptoms and increased happiness and health. At the same time, I researched extensively about each person’s struggles and devised evidence based and creative solution. I am able to help with:
- Understanding and living through changes in self and others
- Feeling content and happier
- Feeling safe
- Emotional competency
- Behavioral congruency
- Identifying and managing larger personality traits in self and others
- Negotiating life after trauma
- Understanding ones changing identity
- Life before, during, and after divorce
- Recovery with and from addiction
- Increasing focus and attention and completing tasks
- Adjusting expectations and effective obedience
- Self determination in a materialistic and relational world
I guide people through their sadness, fear, confusions, and angers to a safer, healthier, happier place. I also help the people living with them.
I work through a variety of therapeutic models such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy, No Talk Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy and others. Each client receives customized assistance (therapy) that is often Experiential. Therapy comes out of our interactions in the moment, whether they are in the office or in your home. The bulk of therapeutic work happens between sessions.
I’ve worked with kids and youth. I’ve worked with their parents and grandparents. When working with the parents, I am really helping them through blockages formed in childhood. Essentially, I am working with two children by a generation who both have many of their own expectations.
As I was for them, I am Here Now to Help.
I have personal experience and education in the realities of growing older. It may seem that younger folks around us as we age no longer see us as relevant. Older people and how we treat them DOES MATTER. During the stage of physical decline and preparation for passing, our children help in all sorts of ways. Sometimes their help is, well, not that helpful, increasing stress and anxiety, on top of what we are already feeling. Lives once full and loving diminish into shame, guilt, and misery. We might have great medical care and not always know where to get emotional/relational support.
I am Here Now to Help.
Today’s children and youth already get a lot of attention. They are our greatest hope. As parents, we despair when our children suffer, when they struggle. We want to help. Often our suggestions don’t work out as we hoped, and we too feel inadequate. We don’t know if we are doing too much or doing too little. Sometimes as parents we disagree on how to parent, increasing tensions between us. We do what we learned to do, and it seems to not matter. We arrive at our wits end. We call for help.
I am Here Now to Help.
Being an adult man or woman today can be a challenge. We are barraged with messages to be this way or that way, or more accurately, this way AND that way. While we know the super hero is a myth, it seems to have become a standard, a benchmark against which many of us judge ourselves. We try to be strong, to hide our sad emotions, demonstrate our angry ones, and woe to us if we appear confused. Or we try to be emotionally astute, accommodating and supportive, only to feel unappreciated and hurt. Our understanding of how to act in our marital and social relationships sometimes conflicts with how our partners and friends need and want us to act. The deluge of personal and relational advice is inconsistent, unreliable, and frustrating. We want something more reliable.
I am here now to help.
My intention is to bring my training and experience to bear on solutions to your problems, to stay with you through completion of your goals of therapy, and to earn your repeat business and referrals.
Here Now to Help – Practice Policy Summaries
Practice policies are discussed during our free introductory session.
Basically, they are applications of Kindness, Honesty, Fairness, Clarity, Curiosity and Openness.